Jay Floyd Frazier

Jay Floyd Frazier passed away peacefully at his home in Oklahoma City on October 9, 2023. At the time of his death, Jay was near his loving friends and family and was less than three months away from the celebration of his 100th birthday.
Jay was born December 29, 1923 in McAlester, Oklahoma, the son of Jay Floyd Frazier Sr. and Gladys Haynes Frazier.
Jay grew up in and around McAlester, Wilburton and Oklahoma City in a loving environment surrounded by his immediate family and relatives and many close childhood friends. His early life was dominated by horseback riding in the areas surrounding his birthplace.
Jay attended the University of Oklahoma where he met the love of his life, Ruth Francis Logan, from Hominy, Oklahoma. Jay and Ruth were married on August 1, 1946. While at OU, Jay studied engineering and later joined his father’s road building business. Jay was a proud member of Phi Gamma Delta fraternity.
Jay lost his father at an early age but his mother remarried to Lyall Barnhart with whom Jay and his family developed a close familial relationship.
During Jay’s life journey, he was first and foremost a devoted husband and father, but was also a successful Oklahoma farmer, cattle rancher, home builder and executive in the mortgage banking industry.
Jay and Ruth together established a wonderful life and home on the Frazier family farm north of Spencer, Oklahoma. Jay and Ruth raised their children on the family farm and friends and family members were always welcome to visit, share and enjoy. Jay and Ruth made the family farm, for many, a sanctuary and home away from home.
Jay was a life-long devout Christian and a long-time member of St. Luke’s Methodist Church and All Souls’ Episcopal Church, both in Oklahoma City. Jay’s life was deeply rooted in his belief in Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior.
Jay was an attentive and loving father to his three children, Kirk, John and Bill, all of whom remained very close to him until his death. Ruth was lost in 2015 but Jay continued to receive lots of love and attention from his children and their families. Jay and Ruth had four grandchildren, Jason Hammons and Hadley Hammons Galt, Mike and David Frazier, and eight great grandchildren, Preston and Emily Hammons, Mary Jane and Margeaux Galt and Claire, Emilia, Maddie and Catherine Frazier.
Jay also leaves behind Bill’s wife Mirna and John’s wife Kimberly, along with Jason’s wife Angela, Mike’s wife Sarah and David’s wife Paige.
Jay was preceded in death by Ruth, his parents Jay Floyd and Gladys, his stepfather Lyall Barnhart, his daughter Kirk’s husband, Royce, and at a young age, his brother John Randolph, and many close friends and relatives.
A special thank you for outstanding dedicated and loving professional care of Jay is extended to Maggie and her staff, including Lilly, Laura, Terren, Terrah, Judy, Lea, Maureen, and Delphine of TruCare Staffing, and to Paula Avery of Caregiver Connection and our dear friend Michael Elsworth.
The family requests that in lieu of flowers, memorial contributions be made to All Souls’ Episcopal Church, 6400 North Pennsylvania Avenue, Oklahoma City, Oklahoma 73116.
A celebration of Jay Frazier’s long and wonderful life will be held at All Souls’ Episcopal Church on Friday, October 20 at 11:00 a.m.