Martha Alma Custer

It is with a heavy heart that our aunt and friend, Martha Alma Custer, departed this earth November 3, 2020, but with joy we know she is now in the graceful embrace of the Lord. A private service in her honor will take place 10:00AM, November 14, 2020 at St. John's Episcopal Church. Friends are invited to attend the interment immediately following the service at 11:30am at Rose Hill Burial Park, in Oklahoma City. Martha was born November 21, 1935 in--appropriately--Independence, Kansas to Marion and Alma Custer. The family moved to Oklahoma City where she was raised. The youngest of five, she was preceded in death by her father and mother; three brothers, John, Marion (Art) Jr., and David; sister, Carolyn; and nephew, Jason. Survivors include niece, Conni Samaha and her children Wynter and Ashley of New Orleans, LA; niece, Carol Custer and her children Samantha and Christopher of Louisiana; niece, Kim Whitt and her husband Cliff; and nephew, Larry Dildine all of Whitesboro, TX; niece, Susan Wallar and her daughter Megan of Austin, TX; nephew, David Custer and his wife Jean of Bellingham, MA; nephew, Andrew Custer and his wife Victoria and their daughters Georgia and Ava of Los Angeles, CA; sister-in-law, Caryl Custer McDonald of Midland, TX, and her daughter Carrie husband, Michael, and their daughters, Nola, Mabel, and Tilly. Family shared some memories of Martha:Conni remembers that she enjoyed bowling, golf and classical music, and that she enjoyed watching the children in her family grow up to be fine, independent people. Susan recalls Martha, not exactly one to engage in parlor games, being cajoled into playing charades at her brother Art's 75th birthday party; the images of her and her brother bouncing around making hints is priceless. Andrew remembers her as an intellect with great compassion and tolerance. He loved hearing stories about the family, and discussing national politics and the recent changes in the Episcopal Church and the Book of Common Prayer. Caryl remembers Martha as a generous giver of her time, caring for her mother up to the time of her death and always available to tend to those in the hospital. Also, she points out that Martha was an extremely active parishioner and volunteer at St John's Episcopal.Jean, wife of nephew David, tells a funny, definitive story. Martha visited David and Jean's home for Thanksgiving a few years ago. David spilled something in the refrigerator. There was some commotion. Martha offered to clean it up, but David said he would. Hours later, Jean arrived home from work. They both discovered that David had not cleaned it up and there was giblet gravy all over the bottom of the fridge. This had been driving Martha crazy for the past 2 hours. Both laughed while they cleaned it up. Can't you just picture this lovely, sensible woman we loved, with a core value of a spotless kitchen, her arms crossed, steaming just a little bit, all the while respecting the boundaries of the household she was a guest in? To me, this sums up the Martha that we loved and will sorely miss. We will miss and always love you, Martha.